A Good Relationship is Born Inside You

Unless you have a sufficient degree of self-esteem and confidence, you should not even try to jump into a commitment with other people. That is because if you don’t like yourself, you cannot truly and honestly say that you can like other people.

Relationships can’t give you self-esteem

Getting involved with people because you hope that they will give you the self-respect that you lack is not likely to produce good and lasting results for that involvement. People can do nothing about something that is inside you.

Starting out a relationship on the right foot is hard enough without your burdening it with your expectations of moral support. People don’t like making friends with those who are uncertain about themselves.

Liking yourself is a prerequisite to establishing relationships

You will need to devote a lot of time examining your deepest motivations if you expect to have some amount of success in dealing with people. Making a list of the shortcomings you can observe in yourself might help. Once aware of your faults, it becomes a matter of research and determination to overcome them.

Speak to someone who knows about character formation and about how awkward and defensive you are in a crowd. Take the time to locate the most respected professionals about your problems.

If you feel that you are overly gratified by praise and crushed by criticism, you should be aware that those are two symptoms of being an immature individual. And that is the very reason why immature people can never involve themselves with others for a long time. So try to feel positive about yourself whether people praise of criticize you.

Go into the crowd to experience Relationships

The only way to learn how to like your self is to socialize. If you are a loner because you cannot react effectively to people, you have to spend time to learn to be spontaneous in a large crowd. It may be difficult at first, but after you have gotten used to being heard in a crowd, you are ready for more serious associations.

Refrain from aggressive speech in Relationships

Keep your conversation topics on yourself and on other things. Never address people directly as this can make many feel paranoid about themselves. If you need to observe something about them, go about it in a roundabout way. If they perceive you as a critical person, they will one by one start avoiding you.

You should also avoid the second person in your speech. Addressing people directly in the second person will not only make them uncomfortable but make them suspicious of your motives.

Persistence spells success

When you begin you relationships with people, you shouldn’t be discouraged by difficult emotional situations. Never stop trying. Character traits need time to be learned. Besides, what do you get by stopping?

Summon the courage to last through the many difficult situations we may find ourselves in. Neither success nor failure should distract you from your real purpose which is to develop and nurture that maturity of mind that is needed for social interaction.

Gerda Leon, counselor and relationship author recommends sharing a good laugh with your significant other. Check out these dancing videos or funny animal videos or possibly disgusting videos

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